By: Guest Contributor
People get divorced, it’s a fact of life. Things happen, people change, we grow, we move on and we’re not the same people that we were at another stage in our life. There is nothing wrong with this, but sometimes it leads to us outgrowing relationships or realizing that this is no longer what we want. When this happens and you’re married, you need to file for divorce, but it doesn’t have to get nasty like you hear about so often. We’ve written this article to give you some advice on how you can make your divorce as amicable as possible, so keep reading if you would like to find out more.
Don’t Act Out Of Spite
First, you should never act out of spite. We know that sometimes it is tempting, and we don’t pretend to understand your unique situation, but acting out of spite is never the answer. For example, when it comes to property division, if you know that your ex wants something and you don’t mind either way, then let them have it. If you don’t care, then there is no reason for you to hold onto it just to spite your ex. This only makes the process longer, more drawn out and gets your back up as well as theirs. If you both act reasonably, then there doesn’t need to be a problem.
Talk Out The Problems
One of the biggest problems in your relationship may have been communication, but it needs to be happening right now. Talking out your problems is one of the only ways to get it solved. Most things can be sorted if you are willing to have an open and honest conversation with your ex and the lawyers about what you want and what you don’t want, what you think is fair and what you don’t, etc. Make sure that you are listening to the other arguments as well, and attempting to come up with solutions where possible.
Get On For The Kids
If you have children, then it’s important that you are not sniping at each other, making digs at each other and bad mouthing each other in front of the children at the very least. If you can avoid it altogether then that is even better, simply because you are now coparents. You need to find a way to navigate this new way of life, and it’s more than likely that you’re going to be around each other in some capacity going forward due to the kids, so for their sake, it makes sense to try and get on, and try to keep it as amiable as possible.
Hopefully now you see some of the things that you can do in order to make your divorce as amicable as possible. It doesn’t have to be viscous, and it doesn’t have to be a figurative bloodbath. You can get a divorce without getting nasty, you just need to keep your head about you and remember what is important. You loved this person at one time in your life, and for that reason alone it’s worth trying your best. We wish you the very best of luck, and hope that you manage to do this.
